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The Experience of Close Relationships Scale

Revised Version

ECR-R
The Experience of Close Relationships - Revised Version

Description of Measure: A 36-item measure of adult attachment style. The ECR-R measures individuals on two subscales of attachment: Avoidance and Anxiety. In general Avoidant individuals find discomfort with intimacy and seek independence, whereas Anxious individuals tend to fear rejection and abandonment.

Experiences of Close Relationships - Revised Questionnaire
The statements below concern how you feel in emotionally intimate relationships. We are interested
in how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current
relationship. Respond to each statement by circling a number to indicate how much you agree or
disagree with the statement.

1. I'm afraid that I will lose my partner's love.*

1. I'm afraid that I will lose my partner's love.*

2. I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with
me*

2. I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with
me*

3. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me. *

3. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me. *

4. I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as
much as I care about them. *

4. I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as
much as I care about them. *

5. I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as
strong as my feelings for him or her*

5. I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as
strong as my feelings for him or her*

6. I worry a lot about my relationships*

6. I worry a lot about my relationships*

7. When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she
might become interested in someone else.*

7. When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she
might become interested in someone else.*

8. When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I'm afraid
they will not feel the same about me. *

8. When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I'm afraid
they will not feel the same about me. *

9. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me.*

9. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me.*

10. My romantic partner makes me doubt myself*

10. My romantic partner makes me doubt myself*

11. I do not often worry about being abandoned*

11. I do not often worry about being abandoned*

12. I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I
would like. *

12. I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I
would like. *

13. Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about
me for no apparent reason. *

13. Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about
me for no apparent reason. *

14. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away. *

14. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away. *

15. I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he
or she won't like who I really am.

15. I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he
or she won't like who I really am.

16. It makes me mad that I don't get the affection and support
I need from my partner. *

16. It makes me mad that I don't get the affection and support
I need from my partner. *

17. I worry that I won't measure up to other people

17. I worry that I won't measure up to other people

18. My partner only seems to notice me when I'm angry*

18. My partner only seems to notice me when I'm angry*

19. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down. *

19. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down. *

20. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner*

20. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner*

21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic
partners. *

21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic
partners. *

22. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.*

22. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.*

23. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners*

23. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners*

24. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners. *

24. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners. *

25. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be
very close.*

25. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be
very close.*

26. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner*

26. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner*

27. It's not difficult for me to get close to my partner. *

27. It's not difficult for me to get close to my partner. *

28. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my
partner*

28. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my
partner*

29. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need. *

29. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need. *

30. I tell my partner just about everything*

30. I tell my partner just about everything*

31. I talk things over with my partner*

31. I talk things over with my partner*

32. I am nervous when partners get too close to me. *

32. I am nervous when partners get too close to me. *

33. I feel comfortable depending on romantic parnters*

33. I feel comfortable depending on romantic parnters*

34. I find it easy to depend on romantic partners. *

34. I find it easy to depend on romantic partners. *

35. It's easy for me to be affectionate with my partner. *

35. It's easy for me to be affectionate with my partner. *

36. My partner really understands me and my needs. *

36. My partner really understands me and my needs. *

What is your email address?*

What is your email address?*

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