Welcome from Dr. Zack
I personally and professionally welcome you to the Adult Attachment Program! Personally, because I, too, have been a client in Three Pillars therapy. I, too, have seen, and now cultivated and embodied the sacred five qualities of secure attachment. To feel safe and protected, to feel seen and known, to feel soothed if you get upset or hurt, to feel your soul delighted in, and to feel supported and encouraged to bring out my truest, most authentic, most unique sense of self. It’s an exciting time at The Adult Attachment Program. We have expanded our capacity to meet the needs of our community by adding quality clinicians, quality people, with diverse backgrounds and experience to our team. We also have a wide variety of offerings; one-on-one therapy, coaching, groups, classes, workshops, and trainings. These are all expanded upon below elsewhere on the website. Please reach out to us if you have questions or if you are interested in this work.
– Dr. Zack Bein
How to Get Involved
There are many ways to get started and involved.
1. Newsletter
A good place to start with the Adult Attachment Program is by signing up for our email newsletter. We’ll send you regular updates on upcoming offerings and guidance for learning about attachment and becoming more secure.
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2. One-on-One Care with a Specialist
The best way to repair your attachment is through one-on-one work with a trained therapist or coach.
But before you go there, it may be wise for you to invest in a good assessment of attachment style(s) so you know what you’re starting with — It’s for that reason that — while not mandatory — we prefer to start with the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI) as it is considered the “gold standard” assessment of attachment strategies in adults and Dr. Zack is “reliable” through the AAI Institute to score and interpret these interviews, and then you and your therapist will determine the next steps and if any of the offerings, either one-on-one or group, would be useful for you. Learn more about our flagship attachment repair program or get in touch to get started.
3. Live Online Groups
The Adult Attachment Program Level I Group
This live group class is online and ideal for beginners or people early on in their own therapy and wanting to learn more about attachment theory, as well as people with some background knowledge who are ready to go deeper. We will mix theory and practice so you can gain a deeper evidence-based understanding of why we behave the way we behave in relationship and how to start changing patterns that no longer serve us. This group is also offered ONLINE This group was a great success and the next dates will be announced soon!
Clinical Use of the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI)
Called the “most important assessment of attachment styles in the last 20 years, the AAI has been infamously labeled as the “gold standard” assessment. There is even some confusion and miscommunication about how and when to use this instrument. This brief course will give you a clinical understanding of the AAI and its findings and how to properly, collaboratively, and ethically share results with clients and patients.
Self Paced Groups
A Self-Paced Online Introduction to Adult Attachment Theory – Level I Training
With 4.8/5 stars on Udemy, this self-paced course provides a scientific background to attachment and relationship patterns. The Adult Attachment Program’s Online Level I Self-Paced Study Class is called Adult Attachment Theory: The Science of Relationships. It covers the major studies that have shown us how attachment patterns develop, an overview of each attachment style in adulthood, and how attachment style in adulthood is assessed. It also gives evidence-based techniques that are accessible to students, as well as providing opportunities to engage with the learning through Homework assignments and activities.
The Adult Attachment Program’s Level II Training is Now Available
Developed by Brown and Elliot (2016) the Three Pillars model for healing attachment disturbances in adults has become quite popular amongst clinicians. This model was intended to offer a comprehensive way to resolve the structural core of attachment insecurity by restructuring and re-mapping the internal working model of attachment in clients using imagined ideal parent figures, guided by the five conditions that create secure attachment (now the 3rd pillar). Often by this process alone, the client begins strengthening several developmental capacities that were impeded by the insecure upbringing (Elliot, 2021). Two specific capacities that are often not nurtured in children with insecure attachment styles are the development of metacognitive capacity (2nd pillar) and enhancing collaborative abilities (1st pillar). This course will explain the theory and practice of Three Pillars therapy and IPF using videos, powerpoint presentations, articles, and supplemental readings and exercises.
4. Articles from the Blog
We have quite a few free resources to help you learn about insecure attachment styles and how to become secure. Here are a few useful foundational articles to learn more about attachment.
- Assessment Methods
- The Four Styles of Attachment
- Our Approach to Repairing Attachment: The Three Pillars Approach with Ideal Parent Figures Imagery
- Attachment Repair is Hard Work, But It’s the Most Important Thing I’ve Ever Done for My Self Development
5. We have various media outlets for you to check out such as blogs and podcasts.
Read What Our Clients Say About Our Work
I trained with Dr Bein in the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol and found the experience quite edifying. Besides being genuinely supportive with real warmth and personal care, Dr Bein is expert in this modality, providing tips, practice sessions, and advice that only comes from years of experience. This information and training is hard to find and immensely valuable, both as an experience and education.
Zack is a kind, attuned, empathic therapist. I’ve been working with him using Ideal Parent Figure protocol for a few years now, and it has changed my life for the better, more so than any other modality/system I’ve used. Zack has a very unique skillset, due to his IPF training, attachment theory expertise, and meditation background. Highly recommend.
“I am so grateful to Dr. Bein and the three pillars practice. This practice has proven transformative in my relationship to myself and others. I cannot recommend The Adult Attachment Program enough.
If we repair our attachment wounds, we could alleviate so much suffering in the world.”
Zach’s deep understanding that mind and body are connected are pivotal in helping heal old wounding. If you’re looking for someone who can help make sense of your anxiety, of how your mind works, or why you hold onto certain beliefs, I can’t recommend a better practitioner of attachment restoration.
I’ve been working with Dr. Zach and his Adult Attachment Program for the past 9 months and my attachment insecurity, sense of self, and overall mental health has been transformed! When I came into the program I had daily attachment anxiety and most of my energy was being used just to keep my anxieties at bay. And without a strong sense of self, I was also struggling to find a sense of meaningful direction in life – to know who I am and what I want. Although I’m not done with the work yet, I can typically calm attachment anxieties or disrupting states of mind quickly. And my sense of self has developed significantly to the point where I have a strong direction in life and I’m excited about the training I’m doing now to help others. I highly recommend Ideal Parent Figures coaching, Dr. Zach, and the Adult Attachment Program!
For decades I have struggled with what I’ve called “wounded conditioning” around relationship. Even after years of therapy and spiritual practices I couldn’t get past my struggles with feeling safe and comfortable in connection. I would sometimes fall into painful despair. Then while on a retreat at IMS a Dharma teacher gave an explanation of Attachment Theory and a description of a new healing modality. It glowed brightly, and I moved from the darkness towards this light. Eventually the journey led to The Adult Attachment Program. The healing has been profound, and I have the deepest gratitude for what is being provided here. The guided IPF visualizations have allowed for a primordial intelligence to operate through the mind’s eye and address the “wounded conditioning” at the level the wounds were created. We can leave new loving imprints on our Psyche and work with a sort of neuroplasticity to heal. There is growing insight into areas that were once only dark and confusing. I am so grateful for finding my way to the Adult Attachment Program. I used to think that perhaps I was truly “broken” but It’s not true. I’m now connecting with others in the ways I have always longed for.